Showing posts with label Coming Out. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Coming Out. Show all posts

Friday, March 4, 2011

Meredith Baxter: I Never Lived a Lie

By Advocate.com Editors

Meredith Baxter appeared on The Joy Behar Show to talk about her book Untied and the two women got to talking about women who come out later in life and if that means they were living a lie when they were with men.

“I can’t speak for anyone else,” Baxter says. “People would say to me, ‘You were living a lie,’ which, truly, I wasn’t. I was so un-self-examined. I was just looking to keep my head above water.”

Baxter says she convinced herself she could get through the abuse she suffered at the hands of her ex-husband David Birney, and when she got married again, she was treated much better, but it still didn’t feel right.

She tells Behar she first got the sense she might be gay when a lesbian who was 25 years her junior moved into her guesthouse and Baxter found herself really interested in her comings and goings.

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Monday, February 7, 2011

Ricky Martin becomes a hero for Latino gays

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By SIGAL RATNER-ARIAS Associated Press

NEW YORK—It's been almost a year since Ricky Martin announced to the world he was gay, but among many gay Latinos, a community that has lived in obscurity for fear of harassment or rejection, his message is still making an impact.

"Today I ACCEPT MY HOMOSEXUALITY as a gift that gives me life," Martin wrote last March in an open letter to his fans, after refusing to speak about his sexual orientation for years. "I feel blessed to be who I am!"

"By hiding, he validated millions of closeted gays' that homosexuality is not honorable," Daniel Shoer Roth, a Venezuelan columnist of the Miami Herald who is gay, told The Associated Press recently.

"In the gay community we have always known that Ricky Martin is one of us," he added. "Because he is an idol, Ricky has paved the way so these gays now say, 'If he could do it, so can I.'"

The revelation of the Puerto Rican singer and activist, whose album "Music+Soul+Sex" came out last week, has had positive effects for the Latino gay community and the society in general, according to advocates for the gay, lesbian and transgender community.

"The example of Ricky Martin as citizen of the world, humanitarian, father, intelligent person, is a good example for those who have obvious stereotypes and also for those who don't have prejudice but have ideas that may act as barriers in the lives of lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders (LGBT)," said Jarrett Barrios, president of GLAAD (The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation). "Ideas like 'a gay man is good to water my flowers at home but not for business' limit the opportunities for the LGBT community."

Pedro Julio Serrano, communications manager of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, says that "when Ricky made the announcement the tectonic plates moved, it was almost like an earthquake."

"It was one of the most important news in the fight for equality that the Latino LGBT community leads. It touches the hearts and opens the minds of many people," said Serrano, who became a friend of the artist after his announcement.

Ricardo Torres, a Mexican man who was raised in Texas and lives in Chicago, was in the audience when Oprah Winfrey interviewed Martin last year. He thanked Martin, saying that his revelation was good for his own relationship with his mother.

"For the first time my mother asked me personal questions. For almost 20 years she has known that I am gay but she never asked anything ... she told me not to tell anyone else in my family. It was a secret ... a big taboo," Torres, 38, told the AP.

"Everything changed after Ricky came out of the closet," he added. "Like someone in our family came out and by doing so gave us the right to live more openly."

And the audience in general seems to support Martin.

"Me," which came out November 2, was a New York Times best-seller and its Spanish edition, "Yo," reached No. 1 biography in the United States. His single "Lo mejor de mi vida eres tu," released the same week of the book, was at the top of Billboard's Latin Pop Songs chart (English version "The Best Thing About Me Is You" debuted on Oprah and was officially released on February 1.)

"If in Puerto Rico people used to love him, now they love him even more," said Serrano, who recounted that during Martin's first public appearance post-announcement, in April at the Latin Billboard Awards, the singer not only received a standing ovation in the theater but a multitudinous cheer from the people on the streets.

"That says a lot about the welcoming and I think demonstrates the reality of our society," he said. "Even though we still have to fight a lot of homophobia, there is much more acceptance today."

According to statistics published online by The Trevor Project, a help-line for LGBT teenagers who may be contemplating suicide, LGBT youth are up to four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers; more than one third have attempted taking their own lives and those in highly rejecting families are more than eight times as likely to have attempted suicide than LGBT peers who reported no or low levels of family rejection.

Torres considers that "one of the biggest positive effects (of Ricky's coming out) is that Latino teenagers that are struggling with their sexuality have an example to follow."

"Ricky gives hope to thousands of teens that are recognizing their sexual orientation or their gender identity and this tells them that even when there is homophobia and lack of acceptance, they can get to be whatever they want to be," Serrano concluded. "I believe that with his story he is saving lives, and for me that is crucial, it is wonderful."

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Monday, January 24, 2011

Watch: High School Senior Comes Out at MLK Jr. Assembly

By Advocate.com Editors

At a “Breaking the Silence”-themed assembly to honor Martin Luther King Jr., a high school senior used the opportunity to come out to the entire school and discuss the importance of diversity and acceptance and speak out against antigay bullying in schools.

“I’m terrified to share my message,” Kayla begins. “I’m afraid of losing friends and losing loved ones. I’m afraid of losing my reputation at this school and the way people look at me. This speech will change my life forever, but I hope that my words can change more.

Kayla K. is a senior at Maria Carrillo High School in Santa Rosa, California, about 60 miles north of San Francisco. Watch here powerful speech here.



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Friday, January 7, 2011

Boston Reacts to Gay Sportswriter

By Advocate.com Editors

Boston Herald sports columnist Steve Buckley received welcoming words from area sports figures after revealing he is gay, but at least one colleague wondered about the reception in the locker room.

According to the Herald, sports radio show host Glenn Ordway, whose show sometimes includes antigay banter, wondered how players would respond to Buckley in the locker room.

“My gut feeling is, you’re probably going to get some immature, young player somewhere down the line who’s going to get [angry] because Buck criticizes him,” said Ordway, the Herald reported. “And he’s going to reach for the easiest way that he can get back at Buckley and call him a name or something like that.”

For his part, Buckley said he’s already received hundreds of supportive e-mails, and the outreach includes words from the leadership of the Patriots and the Red Sox.

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New Study on Coming Out Among Israelis

By Advocate.com Editors

A new study on the gays and lesbians in Israel finds that gay men in the country take a year longer than lesbians to come out after they begin to question their sexual orientation.

According to Haaretz, “The first extensive profile of Israel’s gay and lesbian community concludes that lesbians do not tell anyone about their sexual orientation, on average, for two and a half years after they begin doubting whether they are heterosexual, while gay men often remain in the closet longer — about three and a half years. The comprehensive study was conducted by four researchers at Hoshen, an educational center for the gay community in Israel: Aylon Slater, Uri Ike, Inbal Katsaf and Shai Hertz.”

The study was conducted with 617 individuals using an electronic questionnaire that examined 13 benchmarks in the development of sexual identity. Experts said the results were similar to that seen in American research.

Haaretz reports the study found, “Gay males, on average, begin doubting their heterosexuality earlier than lesbians — at age 14.5 compared to age 18. In coming to terms with their sexual orientation, there is an even broader gap — with gays on average reconciling with the fact at 17 years old, and lesbians, on average, at age 21.”

Read more here.

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